This morning I spoke with someone who felt lost. I will call this person Geoff (though that is not actually this person’s name). Geoff could not believe the situation he was in. He felt stuck and lost, abandoned, and taken for granted. Life was not good.
Geoff had lost more than his present circumstance had dictated. His circumstance had robbed him of a great deal, but the biggest thing he had lost was intangible. Geoff lost hope.
Just last week we were talking about what was going on in Geoff’s life. He felt broken. He felt lost. He felt overwhelmed. But then something changed; Geoff felt purpose. With everything going on, he felt that God was doing something through this process. He felt like there was something good that was going to come out of this process. Life was hell, but he was going to be a better person capable of more because of what he was going through.
Then, one week later, it was gone.
Geoff’s hope that all of this suffering was for something: gone. The hope that Geoff had an advocate in the middle of his present suffering: gone. The hope that this all had a reason: gone. Because all of this was gone, he questioned the very foundations of his life.
His hope escaped.
The problem with hope is that it is fleeting. It is here one minute and gone the next. It is something immensely hard to obtain, and imperative not to lose. Sometimes remaining hopeful feels like trying to grasp the air. We can’t. But we have to.
So what are we supposed to do? How do we find and keep hope?
I have found that hope is not as elusive as many of us think. It is not something we are always going to lose. It may be hard to hold onto, but it is not impossible. Maintaining hope requires that we change the way that we think and the habits we form. It requires us to think about what brings us hope, and how we can keep that hope in front of us. Most importantly, hope requires a decision. It requires that we seek hope everyday, if not several times everyday. Having hope requires we make the decision to try to find it.
What is it that helps you find hope? How do you hold onto it? What does it mean for you to maintain hope?
I cannot answer these questions for you, but over this next few weeks, I will be sharing the things that have helped me over the last few years. You can check out those ideas as this series continues.